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My kindergartener feels like he isn't allowed to cry at school
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My son Ryan started kindergarten recently and it has been a struggle. He's always had a hard time separating from me to go to daycare. On the first day of school I walked him in and when I tried to leave he got upset and started to cry. One of the teachers immediately said in a loud voice "Ryan, we're not going to do that!" I comforted him as best as I could but I eventually had to leave him crying with his hometown teacher. He told he Ryan settled down quickly. Ryan and his sister attend a small Montessori school that has about 40 students and 5 teachers. We wanted a smaller environment for them so they could be a part of a tight knit community. It hasn't turned out to be what we had hoped. Ryan had a hard time at drop off most of the first week, and on that Friday the principal stopped allowing me to come in. By the end of the second week things had gotten smoother and now at the end of the third week, Ryan was saying he was having awesome days.
Tonight when he got tired he started crying but tried to stop himself. I told him it's okay to cry if he needs to; it can help him feel better if he has something that's bothering him. He said he's embarrassed. I said I understand, but you don't have to feel embarrassed for crying. Then he said he's not supposed to cry at school and it makes him really sad. I asked what he meant. He said his teacher said he can't cry at school even when he's sad; everybody cries, even teachers must cry but just not at school. He got really upset and just sobbed about this.
I don't quite know what to do. Usually I am the squeaky wheel. Anytime there's an issue I'm on the phone or up at the school fighting for my kids. But with this, I feel like I shouldn't have to teach teachers how to be supportive and kind to a child in his first two weeks of school. He's only 6 years old and this was his first two weeks of school. I don't know how they expected him to be a perfect student on day one. If I go in and bring this up, I feel like I'm going to sound like I'm talking down to them because again, this is really something they should know. This isn't supporting his mental health. What would you do in this situation?
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Your kid shouldnt be a distraction to the teacher or other students. You should appreciate the principal attempt to break your childs separation anxiety. With that being said, of course kids should be allowed to cry, but is there really any reason to “be sad” at school (kindergarten isnt sad)?
Sounds like you have no problem crying out(squeaky wheel/fighting for kids comment). Maybe think about how your communication style has taught junior to be squeaky as well.
DAE out there ever wish that you could cry in a school bathroom stall and not be questioned for it?
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And if you've ever done that, did people ignore you or were they nosy enough to call over an authority? If my crying were completely silent, I'd do it everyday. Too bad I'd most likely lose control and lead people to think I'm in desperate need of help. I don't want people to know I have a problem. Like there's a reason why I'd rather cry in there than talk to the school counselor. So they should just leave me alone and stop pretending they are concerned, when they are actually just annoyed that a bathroom stall is occupied by some "loser" who isn't even in there for the correct purpose.
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Do you really think no one would genuinely care? I don’t know you, but if I heard someone crying in a bathroom stall I would be sad and want to help.
School me on Rogue Like
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Ok all, I’m gonna admit I’ve never heard of rogue like (or is it rogue lite?) genre of games before and the far cry 6 expansion material is my first foray.
Can somebody school me on the history of rogue like? Best games to ever do it? First one that was most popular? Any other current rogue likes that we should know about?
I can’t say I’m really a big fan of this gameplay mechanic, but anybody know why Ubisoft is leaning towards this type of gameplay? I really don’t see the appeal of starting all over again after just one death
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roguelike
Ubisoft fucked these DLCs up, IMO. There is absolutely no good reason for them to have made the save system so punishing.
It turns three interesting, replayable bite sized experiences into massive wastes of time that I had no interest in ever touching again.
Battle-Cry - Old School Board Game by Milton Bradley (1961, Battle Cry)
Main Post: Battle-Cry - Old School Board Game by Milton Bradley (1961, Battle Cry)
Top Comment: Damn, played the shit out of this when I was a kid. By myself playing both the North and the South.
To anyone who’s graduated, did you cry at your graduation ceremony?
Main Post: To anyone who’s graduated, did you cry at your graduation ceremony?
Top Comment: No, i cried before the ceremony though. i got overwhelmed thinking about how different my life would be.
Kyrat Fashion Week Bug?
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Hi
I cant start this special honey badger quest.
I liberated outpost (Pranijagat School) and there appeared icon of Kyrat Fashion Week on map. I went there and pressed e but it didnt start?
Something like game didnt let me take quest because I press e but it says "Do you want to start this?"
I tried many times over and over but after pressing e it refreshes itself and still want me to press but nothing happens?
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Seems like you are not tough enough to hunt honeybadgers /s
Actual explanation: Yes, it is intended that you have to "accept" the quest around 10 times before it works. It's a joke based around the fact that honeybadgers are the most dangerous animal in the game, so this specific quest wants to make sure you really intend to start it.